You Are The Best!

Each and every one of us are different. And there are days when I look in the mirror and think, ‘well, thank goodness for that!’. πŸ˜›
Honestly though….

NO ONE can be a better YOU than YOU! (And it’s in red because it is really important!) And guess what? Your birth was a blessing, no matter what the circumstances. You have gifts and talents, even if you haven’t discovered them yet. And you have a purpose!

You aren’t defined by your past, and that includes yesterday. Because perhaps yesterday you did something that suddenly sparked a much needed change and so today you are a better person, striving towards the greatness you were created for.

And if you feel like you haven’t yet managed to grasp your particular talent, ability, purpose and it’s making you feel worthless? Please don’t lose heart! You will! You’re still the best ‘you’ that anyone could ever hope to be and you’re filled with undeniably positive potential! (Even if it means you need to learn and grow and discover πŸ˜‰ )
No matter what : you matter!

So having said all that, I am also going to say this : some people can be really mean, and sometimes I think that’s why Noah only took animals on the ark. πŸ˜›
They stand in judgement of every little thing, and they’re critical, and they’re a downright hindrance to whatever self esteem we are trying to build. And sometimes, if we pause to explore where they’re coming from, we might find a lot of hidden hurt… and opinions based on the beliefs they have. They can still be quite destructive though. (If we let them be : and let’s face it, sometimes we’re in a place where we struggle to not let them influence us.)
They’re a ball of continuous negativity that just seems to never stop rolling.

The thing is, when I think about it, there are times where my behaviour was exactly like theirs. Those times may have been fleeting, but I’d be lying if I said that I have never judged another, or been critical, or broken down someone’s self esteem.

However, nowadays when that old pattern of self threatens to emerge, I am usually a lot more successful at preventing myself from reacting or behaving in that way, because I have worked really hard to eliminate the beliefs that taught me to be that way and deal with my pain.Β  And I owned my mistakes – and appreciated the times they were not thrown in my face. There’s also something extra special and extremely uplifting when someone pauses at an action you have taken and wants to know ‘why’ – without just the assumption that actions speak louder than words.

The ‘WHY’ is actually the source of the biggest step towards change and growth. Without understanding ‘why’, or caring enough to ask someone ‘why’, they may not ever get the help they need and may continue on a path of self destruction. I understand that sometimes the why isn’t a simple answer – but growth and change aren’t always simple either.

In a world where we can be anything, let’s not only be kind…. let’s also be understanding.

This was actually all sparked by a motivational speaker who has fed me some truly great opinions and knowledge that have helped me, but has also recently been tarnished in the media for doing something ‘terrible’. And while I agree that ‘the deed’ is in fact a bit questionable, I don’t know why it was done – I have no real knowledge of the circumstances or the emotions, or the struggle that I am sure was happening internally.Β  Does it mean that the food I was able to glean for my own soul now no longer has worth? NO!Β 
It just means that this person has weaknesses too – and that the weakness has temporarily won – and perhaps there is a great sense of purpose to it? For who knows?Perhaps there’s a lesson for them and an opportunity for even more growth. Because we never stop growing or learning. Perhaps this is a part of their journey.

They may be a celebrity with a recognised social status and more money than I could ever possibly imagine having or even desire (unless it means I can give it away and help the people in my life who I know so desperately need it!) … but that celebrity is still a person, like me. They also matter. They also need kindness and understanding. They also make mistakes.

And since I didn’t like being judged and criticised for mine, I don’t think it’s fair that I jump on the bandwagon and do the same to them – especially since I don’t understand the situation.

That weakness led to a mistake being made. Celebrities are not perfect, so why do we think they don’t make mistakes? Just like we do. Just like some parents do. Just like some pastors do. Just like some teachers do.

Just. Like. Me.

 

 

18 thoughts on “You Are The Best!

  1. The interesting thing is we make them more than normal and set them on a pedestal to then knock them down. Judgement works both ways which we don’t seem to appreciate. We judge a person to be a better person because they have a particular gift and ignore the rest of their life. Then we reverse the judgement when something breaks out in the part of their life we had previously ignored. We can be so fickle.
    I now avoid reading biographies of the people I admire so I can continue enjoying their achievements, especially musicians as music plays a big part in my life. It is so easy to let the good be tainted by anything that is less, even when I try to avoid judgement. And the media? What chance has anyone got if we believe what we find there?

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    1. I absolutely agree with you. I think it was Jacob Whitesides who sang about ‘why can’t we all just get along’?
      We all say we want the world to be a better place, but that only comes when we make changes in ourselves as individuals.
      And we won’t always get it right, but we can at least try.
      The interesting thing is that we don’t just put celebs on pedestals – we do it with regular people in our lives. And then we become devastated when they let us down -which is crazy, because no one is perfect. Why on earth do we expect them to be?
      But of course, I didn’t always think or feel this way – I had to change my mindset and learn to understand and behave in a different way. I had to experience very real disappointment and hurt, and choose to grow from it and let it go. And I guess that that too needs to be made allowance for – people need to grow into love and understanding and kindness, perhaps?

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  2. Wow Megs, that was an extremely vulnerable and honest post!! I really love it, and it’s very useful. Thank you for posting these things!

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  3. Oh yeah was going to sayβ€”

    “That weakness led to a mistake being made. Celebrities are not perfect, so why do we think they don’t make mistakes? Just like we do.”

    β€”I’ve sometimes been using this for Richard Dawkins, who’s kind of had two careersβ€” one in zoology, and one speaking about theology! πŸ˜†. I respect a lot of what he says in both areas, but sometimes he CAN be a little inflammatory and shows some weaknessesβ€” but I’ve always hated the idea of extending judgement from a few things over a whole person’s worth. πŸ’™

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    1. (I’ve also felt this kind of judgement from family about myself, many times, and it’s gutting when it feels like people have forgotten a lifetime of ‘you’).

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  4. Good morning my friend another very powerful and deeply meaningful post and a great deal of food for thought.
    I think that many of us and I include myself in this are guilty of judging others based upon our belief systems and our limited understanding of a situation.
    It is very easy for us to say that we would act differently when we were not there or weren’t fully aware of circumstances but until we can place ourselves in the other person’s shoes how could we possibly know how we would act.
    I too try not to judge others without trying to understand more about what the situation was that caused the person to act in the way that they did.
    As you also said no matter what our station in life we are all human and have all of the human weaknesses and I think that in today’s world there is a lot more pressure on not just celebrities but on each and every one of us.
    I thank you for sharing your insights and I hope that you and your family have an enjoyable week from a very wet and miserable Milford Haven Pembrokeshire in West Wales 🏴󠁧󠁒󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 xx

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    1. Of course, you know I have to comment on the weather first πŸ˜› MY kind of weather πŸ˜‰ We have another hot and sunny day in South Africa. I AM grateful that it means I can do all the laundry and get it dry on the line though πŸ˜‰

      Sometimes, even when we ‘know the situation’, we still need to try and be hesitant in our judgments. I say that because we don’t always know the history… and we certainly don’t experience the same emotions as the other person.
      A situation that may seem trivial to me and someone else’s reaction that may seem absurd should still be devoid of judgement – because they are not me, and I am not them.

      I hope you have a wonderful week too. May Monday fill you with motivation and hope that lasts longer than just the week ahead πŸ˜‰ Much love to you and Kath ❀

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      1. Thank you for your kind words my friend and you are right inasmuch as we are never fully aware of a person’s feelings or emotions and of course the history
        Judgment is all too easy for many but is also based a lot upon assumptions.
        We can never be fully aware of what drives a person to act in the way that they do πŸ˜‰
        Would you please try and send me some of your sunshine β˜€ only the UK πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ is currently experiencing severe flooding and strong winds lol πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚
        Enjoy the rest of your week ahead and hope that the washing dries β€οΈπŸ€—

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  5. What a powerful reminder that was much needed this day! Sometimes when the closest people in our lives – the ones who should encourage, don’t – it can really tear that self esteem to shreds. It’s a tough thing not to let it. It’s easy to internalize and think, “Well dang, am I really that unworthy?!?”

    You are 100% right my friend. People can be mean. Sometimes it’s without intending to be. Others are fully aware of their actions and words being hurtful. It saddens me on a level I can’t describe to think we are capable of doing this to another human being. But we are!

    No one can be you and I am so grateful you are you, because you is beautiful! πŸ™‚ Thank you for always being an inspiration and a bright light in a very dark world! πŸ’ž You are loved & appreciated!

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    1. Ah Holly, your comments always make me smile and warm my heart tremendously. Thank YOU for being an encouragement and inspiration to me! You too are loved, and very much appreciated! ❀ ❀ ❀

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