Just to recap :
You’re worthy of love – especially your own.
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It’s their opinion. Possibly based on their own limiting beliefs. Possibly based on something you did – but they don’t know your why.
At the end of the day, try not to make it your own opinion of yourself. Please try and allow yourself some grace – we all make mistakes. It’s what we do after we have made them that counts. Be kind TO YOU!
You can still love you.
Please try to not feel discouraged if your pace is slower than those around you.
And as Tony Robbins has been heard to say :
You’re still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying!
And today I am going to throw a third thing in the mix :
Get to know YOU!
I went to buy dog food and was chatting with the lady who runs the shop. I asked after her daughter and she was catching me up with regards to her, when she said to me,
“You know, I am still struggling with that whole irrational fears thing. I even went and bought a book that someone recommended and said would definitely help me. But it hasn’t made any difference.”
I asked her if she likes reading. Her response was that she doesn’t like it at all, never reads – not even magazines. Can’t seem to focus for long enough and gets irritated.
Then I asked her if she likes movies and series and well, pretty much, watching stuff?
The reply was a huge yes! So I suggested to her that she search on YouTube for that author (because I know she has a channel, and have actually watched some of her videos) and find videos that relate to the book and watch those instead.
I have no idea if my suggestion was of any help. But I think you understand why I shared her story.
Aristotle said that to know yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
For me personally, this means that I need to pay attention to me – develop my skills of understanding ME! And what works for me NOW!
And it means acknowledging something that is just as important as loving myself and accepting that I may take more time than others : what works for other people just might not work for me.
We need to be careful with that statement though – and that’s why knowing ourselves is so important. I am not the same person I was last year, last month, even last week. I am growing and changing – and with this comes an adjustment in my thinking, so to speak. What I mean is that there’s been a shift in what works for me as well.
I’ll leave you with one last story, which is a little silly, but I am hoping it will help make my point :
When my children were younger, and pushing every button they could find on their ‘mommy machine’, I used to count to about 30…. and then give up. Because it didn’t work for me. I got irritated easily, didn’t manage stress as well as I should have, and had such low self-worth that it marred most aspects of my life. ”Count to Ten” was an attainable ‘dream way’ of coping.
I’ve worked hard on myself and over the years have developed really good stress management skills, am actually surprisingly patient, and have built up a mostly healthy self esteem. I’ve managed to supersede what I thought was unattainable. My kids are a lot older, but somehow they test me, (and boundaries) and push buttons, a lot more now!
These days though, in probably 95% of the situations, I only need to count to 5! Suddenly it works for me!
Because I’m different now!
So if you haven’t tried something in a while, but you know you’ve grown, maybe try it again?
But please be kind to you. Other people’s stories and what works for them are just examples to perhaps give you some guidance. You are NOT them. Keep searching for what works for you, and don’t give up!
As we grow, there are always new things to discover about ourselves. 😉