Big Wins

We all have those moments. The ones where there is a ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ moment, and everything just seems to crumble. Staying afloat is a struggle and sometimes we find ourselves gasping for air. More so in the current pandemic – the stress that it is bringing to our lives is something none of us have ever been prepared for.

I was speaking to someone the other day, and laughing (yes, actually laughing) about all the terrible things I have been through in my life, and having been made an entirely single mom with no financial or emotional support 12 years ago, and how I have learned and worked so hard at finding tools for survival and implementing coping strategies and mechanisms that are healthy – and that I felt that I was doing okay and could pretty much cope with anything. And then? Covid19.

It’s a whole new ball game.

No one has ever taught me about what to do in a worldwide pandemic, when you live in a third world country that was falling apart even before the crisis hit. No one has prepared me for it, or offered me applicable coping mechanisms. And I really thought I was doing okay in the beginning. But I think that as with many other aspects in life, my sub conscious needed a little bit of a ‘reprogram’.

And it was in trying to help someone else last week, that I actually helped myself. Which should come as no surprise to many of you. Because isn’t that just the ‘circle of life’ –

showing kindness begets kindness;
giving freely begets receiving;
helping others emotionally begets assistance for ourselves

And I found myself wondering….

What if I apply all I know to this unknown situation as well – whether I think it’s applicable or not? What if I continue to live as I always have, despite the circumstances? What if I do as much as I can, with what I have, and what I am allowed to do legally (I can’t pop in for a coffee with a friend who is struggling)? What if I just keep being me and celebrate each new day without worrying about the next one?

I have always been someone who has an ‘attitude of gratitude’. I try NOT to complain a lot, but sometimes we do just need to get things off our chests. But even after moments of grumbling, I am still mindful of gratitude for what I DO have.

What we sometimes forget is that our ‘small wins’ and the little things, are things of monstrous value to others. I think that taking things for granted is a human condition, and not always something we do intentionally. I slip up many times – it doesn’t make me an ungrateful and bad person. When I realise what I have done, it creates an awareness to be more grateful for that particular thing – which is good! (And I can’t help but wonder if that’s the point 😉 )

In my country there are far too many people who don’t have access to clean running water. I live in a built up residential area and so this is not a problem for me. And although my heart aches for those people, and I get angry at my government infrastructure that has failed them, I don’t think I ever fully understood their reality until we were without water for six whole days. It certainly changed things up for me and as silly as it sounds, I am now grateful every time I shower, am able to flush the toilet, wash dishes, do a load of washing in the washing machine etc. Previously, I would have seen these things as small wins – now I know how big they actually are! (And it has also led to us being more aware of the amount of water we use, developing good habits to not waste 😉 )

I can also tell you from personal experience, the small wins that are celebrated for what they truly are (big wins for others) attract something powerful.

In the same way, the small things that we do for others attract something powerful too. In EVERY aspect of our lives. The more we think about good things, and do good for others, the more we invite it to attach itself to us 😉 

Every day is different. Some days are ‘bad’, where everything seems to go wrong. But even on those days, I challenge you to find three good things too – because you WILL find them if you consciously look for them 😉

And don’t forget to give something away every day – even if all you have to give is a smile, or ten minutes of your time. Little things to you may signify big wins in someone else’s life


10 thoughts on “Big Wins

    1. Ah, thank you 🙂 I’ve spent many years thinking this way… but certain situations create an awareness to make you more thoughtful 😉
      It’s been easier to slip into the ‘woes’ with all that is happening over here – but the more conscious I am of the wins, the more reasons there are to celebrate my life, and me 😉
      Hope all is well with you? xx

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  1. I used your blog as a meditation this morning and just sat and said thank you over and over. The number of small blessings that came into my thoughts was surprising. I think we become insensitive to much that we have. A timely reminder. Thank you.

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  2. AMAZING post, my friend! Your words are power-packed wisdom. I especially love this line: “I can also tell you from personal experience, the small wins that are celebrated for what they truly are (big wins for others) attract something powerful.” — You are absolutely right! How often do we rob others of a blessing because we think it’s “no big deal” what we know or have learned in life? I am guilty of this more often than I care to admit. As someone who constantly undermines what she’s been through and what she has to offer, I needed to read your words! You’re right, our small wins equal big blessings/wins for someone else.

    I am so sorry you went without water for 6 days. Oh goodness, that must have been challenging! We were without it here for 2 1/2 days and I’ll never forget the experience! It’s true though. Without going through these moments in life, we are totally disconnected from the daily realities for so many people. God forgive us for not always being aware of the suffering around us.

    You’re amazing. I am so grateful to have ‘met’ you here in the blogosphere. With all sincerity, please forgive my absences from your blog. I’ve missed reading your posts. It has truly been a tumultuous time; some of it Covid related and some not. Either way, it has been draining both emotionally and physically. Just as you say, we must *actively* look for the good in the tough days.

    How are you & your family? I’m sending my very best love & hugs to you! ♥ Thank you for all you do!


    1. Oh Holly… I am so sad to hear that things have been draining for you 😦 To be honest, I am also feeling quite drained. Probably for different reasons, but at the end of the day, it isn’t a nice feeling at all 😦 I will be hoping that something good happens for you, and that you find peace and rest.
      These are such trying times 😦

      We are all doing okay, thank you. Some days are better than others 😉 But we’re plodding along and doing the best we can… and that’s all that is needed 😉

      Much love and plenty of hugs for you. You are always in my thoughts ❤

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