You need to quit

Not quite in keeping with the theme of my last few posts, right?
But please allow me to explain….

I still believe that we should not quit, or give up…. but am only adamant about this when it’s application is ‘for living’. 

As bad, or as good; as difficult or as easy; as sad or as happy – you have ONE life to live, and I encourage you to NEVER quit on it… or the people who care for you, love you, and who you (sometimes unknowingly) inspire and have a positive effect on.

But sometimes we need to ‘take stock’, and sometimes we need help from others, to help us discern which things IN our lives may need quitting. 

I was in a very abusive relationship – abusive in every way.
By the end of the first year, I am told that the ‘light was gone’ from my eyes, and I know that although I was still in there, I was lost. Young, vulnerable, and lost.
And very much alone. Seemingly no way out. Everyone had turned their backs on me – most of my family had written me off and the general consensus was : ‘that’s who she chose, she made her bed, now she must lie in it’.
IT HURT!
But yes, I HAD chosen him – I just didn’t realise all that was involved when I made that choice.
And life sucked – I was miserable.
Someone showed me that I could make a new choice, and they offered me their help – and it opened the door for me to be able to leave. It took TEN YEARS!

BUT, if I hadn’t ‘quit that marriage’? I may not have had life now. And that’s the reality.
I HAD to give up, and quit, in order to live.

That example is a bit extreme, I know. But the important lesson from it is this :

Sometimes we need to shift our focus, and instead of growing our knowledge in the areas of ‘winning and having a happy and successful life’, we need to perhaps also concentrate on ways to grow in wisdom, and discernment.
To be honest with ourselves and ask the hard questions. To be honest enough to accept the difficult answers, and make the changes that we need to.

Sometimes we need others to help guide us. I am not saying that other people will always know what is best FOR YOU. But having another opinion, someone who has been there, perhaps someone a little wiser? That always helps us as far as perspective goes, and sometimes we need ‘a different opinion’ to get us on the right path – or perhaps their perspective will just confirm for us that the path we are on IS in fact the correct one.

I suppose you could say that another important skill in this life is this :

We need to know WHEN to quit, when to change direction, when to walk away from a toxic friendship or relationship (is it hurting you, are you hurting them, has it become unhealthy? etc), when to give up on something that isn’t working and move on.

When we ‘take stock’, it’s helpful to identify these things and quit/give up…

But just so we’re clear 😉 :

NEVER GIVE UP… ON LIFE ITSELF! 

9 thoughts on “You need to quit

  1. Took my mother 25 years to leave my Dad so we suffered through years of abuse also and it shaped our lives more then I care to believe. Thanks God for God…the things I can draw from those years of what the enemy of my soul wants me to see as waste are the very thing God uses to help others now. Yes, in every situation we usually need someone to help us along our way. Will be praying for you.

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    1. It is so very true that out of every bad thing we experience, something good can grow – and it prepares us and equips us to help others, if we choose the right way of dealing with it.

      I left many years ago! Got out of that situation about 13 years ago now. And it truly was the best thing I have ever done.

      Thank you for your kind comment, and the prayers. Sending prayers your way too ❤

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  2. Great post, Meg! It reminds me of a quote I like:

    “We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” -Joseph Campbell

    Sometimes we just need to let go. 🙂

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    1. Thank you, Wic. After 13 years, it gets easier to talk about. And was probably one of the best examples I could think of to use from my own life and personal experience.
      I’m glad you liked the post 😉

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  3. Good morning my friend,
    Sorry that I haven’t been in touch recently but I hope that you are well.
    I was reading your post and found it very interesting and the content very close to my heart.
    My last marriage lasted for nearly 12 years but even from the outset there were many issues that could not be resolved, she was still very close to her ex and indeed he lived with us for the first 3 years of our marriage. Even after she saw him every day and it was a challenge for me, the church basically supported her and her ex and indeed before we got married were openly trying to get them back together.
    I left at one stage in the marriage and ended up going back, when I left the second time on the 19th of August 2014 the day after I was contacted by my former Bishop and his wife who basically said that I should go back and accept that I was married to her, now I am so glad that I didn’t even though Kath and I would have celebrated our 6th anniversary on the 20th of August I still have no regrets.
    I think that you are right inasmuch as some things you should quit or leave however you should never quit on life.
    I as always send you my thoughts and prayers and hope that you and your family are keeping well. xx

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