As with many things in life, success has different meanings in different situations.
By it’s definition, it is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
And although I know that I know this, sometimes I still forget some of the aspects related to the word ‘success’.
I was reading Ed Mylett’s book, and he was talking about when he first started out – the early days of his entrepreneurship. When he wasn’t a successful entrepreneur.
He speaks of how they had nothing. Bills hadn’t been paid, utilities had been shut off. He and his wife had to sneak down to the apartment complex’s swimming pool before others woke up to use the showers there, and then he’d don his business suit and ‘pretend’ to be a successful entrepreneur. He mentions that the showers were open ones, and so he would hold a towel for his wife to try and ‘protect her privacy’.
What struck me, as I read those words, was this :
Yes, he wasn’t yet a successful entrepreneur, BUT in my eyes (based on the story he told) he was pretty successful as a husband.
I don’t read Success magazine, but I liked what I found in Wikipedia…
Because here’s the thing : we are fully responsible for our own personal and professional development, and the success thereof. While circumstances may play a part in delaying our ‘success’, I think that a lot of the time the fact that we just continue to persevere is successful in itself!
A couple of weeks ago, I was approached by a friend who was being poached by another company – according to her she was really happy in her current placement, but the other company was offering her a much better salary package. She asked me what she should do. I told her to speak to her boss, and see if he could perhaps counteroffer. Naturally, she was worried that the other company would still be offering her more – and what then? My reply was ‘to determine what it was she was chasing – if she’s happy where she is, and that is what she wants from life, then she should stay. If her aim was to make more money, then she should change jobs’.
I don’t know that this was the best advice (since then, her current company came in with a better offer and she is staying where she is) but I do know this :
Success is largely about perspective, and it’s personal. What it means to me may not necessarily be what it means to you.
I found this article about 9 famous people who spoke of what success is – to them. There were some interesting things in there, so I thought I’d share it in case you wanted to do some further reading 😉
Photo credit : quotefancy.com
I love the quote above. It’s something I often refer to, and is a reminder for me to ‘think big’.
But I find that I have to regularly argue with myself. (An article for reference because I am not crazy 😛 )
And I know I am not alone when I say that I am ‘my own worst enemy’ and that the main thing ‘standing in my way is ME’!
I have to argue with myself because I have not yet conquered all those limiting beliefs, and one of the biggest ones that I struggle with is the one that tells me I will never be successful.
I do think it is all about perspective though – and it’s personal. Because what I want to be successful at? I think I am slowly but surely achieving. I doubt it’s going to make me famous though 😛
My definition of success is just that – it’s mine. It’s looking at my aims and purposes (goals) and celebrating when I achieve them.
I like to dance… so I think I am going to go with an optimistic view on this :
Photo credit : me.me
For now I will just keep doing my best, work on believing in myself, continue learning and growing so that I can be a better version of me, and keep checking my list of what I want to achieve.
And I will celebrate each small success (my perception of it) along the way!
Feel free to reward yourself now, since you have successfully completed reading this blog post 😉