I’ve had my share of bad managers – people overseeing me in the work place who were more than questionable in many areas. The mind boggles when trying to figure out how it is they got their position to start with. They sure do ruin the work place. In fact, one day I should blog for ‘the prospective employer’, because ‘bosses’ these days leave a lot to be desired. You’d think they’d know better – surely they can see/read the same rants and tips the rest of us do? I guess they really just don’t care. How sad that this is what ‘life in the workplace’ has become.
But as I stared at the picture, I saw it in a different light. Who’s my boss?
All right, so I have no boss as such. (Well, I do….but that would mean mentioning religion, which I prefer not to do and you can read why here if you’re interested.)
When it comes to my workplace, I AM the boss. And it’s exhausting. Fortunately, I only have a staff of one…ME. Unfortunately, there are a lot of downsides to that too. But that’s for another day.
As with everything, I like to look at the bigger picture.
I was babysitting for my neighbour a few weeks back, and her three year old was misbehaving. I gently asked him to stop what he was doing, and he looked at me in horror, exclaiming, “You’re not the boss of me.”
I managed to reason with him (which is awfully tough with a 3 year old), and he understood that sadly, I was in charge. Unfortunately, in our youth, someone HAS to be in charge.
I come into contact with far too many people who unknowingly admit to me that their friends, family, partners are ‘their bosses’. It’s not only teenagers who succumb to peer pressure. And if we aren’t careful as adults, we can very quickly lose control….and lose vital parts of ourselves that will take years to find again.
“If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take.
That’s why it’s your path.”
Follow YOUR path!
Try and change your thinking. Constantly work on improving yourself – cultivating character traits that are positive. Try to work on accepting yourself, warts and all, and find what motivates and inspires you. Focus on letting go, and moving on from the things that have hurt you. Ask for advice from friends and family, yes. But be discerning enough to also know what you should, and should not be following.
Lifestyle also plays a large part in the scheme of things. Somehow, some way – even if only in a very small way – we need to find independence. We need to try and learn how to meet our own needs, and make our own decisions.
And take care of ourselves as best we can – physically and mentally. Cultivate positive relationships, try and eat a little more healthy and drink the required amount of water a day. Get enough sleep. Make lists and get organised, and deal with one thing at a time. Whatever it is that makes you feel healthy in every way is what you should be focusing on.
In a world where there are so many negative people, creating negative situations; in a world where there is far too much hurt and anger….
Be a part of the people who make it better, by being more positive- even if you start small.